There are many kinds of collar but the Bad Kitty is an old school kinkster in many ways. The collar that means the most to Bad Kitty is the one given to him by his Mistress; it is this that we will use for this discussion piece.
Simply put, a collar is a symbol of ownership. Quite what that ownership means is defined between the Domme and her sub/slave. For some it means that the sub/slave can only be approached via the Domme when they are out, for others it means a total 24/7 ownership.
(A simple bottom line which many people forget is that we make the rules. A collar on one person may have a different meaning to a collar on someone else. Don’t assume and ignore, ask politely. Polite enquiries will get a polite response.)
The collar is not mine: it is Mistress’ collar. Mistress chose to offer it because She thought that Bad Kitty had earned it. This was totally unexpected and unsolicited, it was something Bad Kitty had never sought. So to open a box from America and find a collar was quite a surprise.
It took some discussion before accepting the collar – just as one should not rush into offering a collar, so one should not rush into accepting one either. We did not have a collaring ceremony per se, as Mistress was in California and Bad Kitty was in the UK.
When Bad Kitty visited Mistress, that first time Mistress put Her collar around his neck was a wonderful feeling and one he still treasures. Being out and about in America wearing Mistress’ collar not once did the Bad Kitty get a raised eyebrow.
It was to be a while before Bad Kitty was to be honoured by Mistress in this way again, but such is the way of long distance relationships.
When Mistress told Bad Kitty that She would be holding a rededication ceremony for him, stunned silence was the initial response, then slight incoherence and then thanks. That ceremony remains a treasured memory, as fresh as if it happened last night.
So it is that Bad Kitty has only one collar, which he treasures. When Bad Kitty gets his Kinky Vicar persona going, he will have another collar too