#KinkOfTheWeek – Collars

There are many kinds of collar but the Bad Kitty is an old school kinkster in many ways.  The collar that means the most to Bad Kitty is the one given to him by his Mistress; it is this that we will use for this discussion piece.

Simply put, a collar is a symbol of ownership.  Quite what that ownership means is defined between the Domme and her sub/slave.  For some it means that the sub/slave can only be approached via the Domme when they are out, for others it means a total 24/7 ownership.

(A simple bottom line which many people forget is that we make the rules.  A collar on one person may have a different meaning to a collar on someone else.  Don’t assume and ignore, ask politely.  Polite enquiries will get a polite response.)

The collar is not mine: it is Mistress’ collar.  Mistress chose to offer it because She thought that Bad Kitty had earned it.  This was totally unexpected and unsolicited, it was something Bad Kitty had never sought.  So to open a box from America and find a collar was quite a surprise.

It took some discussion before accepting the collar – just as one should not rush into offering a collar, so one should not rush into accepting one either.  We did not have a collaring ceremony per se, as Mistress was in California and Bad Kitty was in the UK.

When Bad Kitty visited Mistress, that first time Mistress put Her collar around his neck was a wonderful feeling and one he still treasures. Being out and about in America wearing Mistress’ collar not once did the Bad Kitty get a raised eyebrow.

It was to be a while before Bad Kitty was to be honoured by Mistress in this way again, but such is the way of long distance relationships.

When Mistress told Bad Kitty that She would be holding a rededication ceremony for him, stunned silence was the initial response, then slight incoherence and then thanks.  That ceremony remains a treasured memory, as fresh as if it happened last night.

So it is that Bad Kitty has only one collar, which he treasures.  When Bad Kitty gets his Kinky Vicar persona going, he will have another collar too :)


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Comments: 6

  1. The Foxette May 19, 2013 at 9:57 pm Reply

    What a lovely collar it is and that loveliness is only added to by the fact that it holds such strong meaning to you and your mistress.

    I’m quite excited for when you get your clergy collar as well. Perhaps too excited overall :)

    • badkitty May 21, 2013 at 12:42 am Reply

      Hi my Foxette :) It’s an American collar so there won’t be too many of them seen here in the UK :) As for the clergy collar, have a look at this sketch from Spike Milligan http://youtu.be/kQuNVO9bcvY?t=25m1s

  2. SubReiSkyeM May 19, 2013 at 11:05 pm Reply

    The long-distance relationship between you and your Mistress sounds like a great one. It doesn’t always work but you both seem to be doing very well. I don’t know if I could do it, which leaves me in awe of how everyone else manages.

    That collar looks amazing. Is it very heavy?

    • badkitty May 21, 2013 at 12:31 am Reply

      Hi Rei, welcome and thanks for coming by. Like any LDR there have been moments of misunderstanding but our bond will not be broken easily. Mistress’ collar is beautiful and weighs 200 grams (8 ounces).

  3. Jade May 20, 2013 at 12:57 pm Reply

    I love that you say that the collar is HERS and she chose to offer it to you. I have not seen it phrased that way before, although I have felt that to be the case in one relationship where I wore a collar whenever I was with a certain Dominant (that was the only time I wore it.) I also appreciate you saying that accepting a collar should take as much thought and & discussion as offering it.

    • badkitty May 21, 2013 at 12:04 am Reply

      Hi Jade, thanks for dropping by & your kind words. This is the only way that Bad Kitty has ever seen it, the collar is Mistress’ to offer and withdraw at Her desire. Choosing to accept a collar needs consideration, just as offering one does; there could be unexpected results from rushing in too quickly. That is something the Bad Kitty would like to see more people writing about.

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